Published On : Sun, Nov 24th, 2013

Premarital Sex : Mixed reactions of city Gen X

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Despite restrictive social norms, there is increasing evidence that youth in India engage in premarital romantic and sexual partnerships. However, information on how they initiate and build these relationships is scarce, even though it is vital for addressing the needs of young people. The state of affairs in Nagpur too is no exception, however few city youths are not willing to agree with this rising trend.

However, going by the rising number of cases of consensual sex that is committed on the false promise of marriage, it gives a fair idea of what the youths are upto when it comes to matching their comment with their act. It surfaced that majority of such relationships gone wrong then fills up police diary as sexual offence.

Nagpur Today undertook a survey on the opinion of city youth on Premarital Sex. Various section of youths were questioned about their perspectives towards sex. The questions included their reactions to the opposite sex, their experience about sexual approach, their views on premarital sex and about different takes of males and females on the issue. During the interaction, the youngsters were also quizzed whether they agree about the common perception that females are more inclined towards the thought of sex only after marriage. Also whether it’s okay to have sex while in love or to prove love? Or is it fine to have consensual sex before marriage using safer means of contraceptives? Here’s the low down…

B.Sc Student of Dharampeth Science College, Utkarsh K said that he believes boys and girls should have healthy relationships with each other. No girl showed any interest in him as yet. According to him, sex should only be had after marriage. He said that girls are more conservative than boys as far as premarital sex is concerned. He also believes that one does not have to have sex to prove his or her love for the other person. Immaterial of reliable contraceptives which are available and can be used to prevent pregnancy one should have sex only after marriage.

Three B.Sc Students of Dharampeth Science College, APPY group, said that they do not have any specific reactions to the opposite sex. Yes some guys have shown interest in them. They were too shy to answer to express their opinion on premarital sex. They all agreed that girls are more conservative than boys where premarital sex is concerned. They too believe that having sex is not the token of proof for love. They did not respond to the question of using contraceptives to prevent pregnancy.

B.Sc Microbiology, Student of Hislop College, Mugdha said that it is okay for boys and girls to get to know each other. According to her, many guys have shown interest in her. According to her, if it is safe, pre-marital sex is fine. She said that girls are more conservative than boys where premarital sex is concerned, because of the way their friends react and parental pressure. She does not agree that females are more likely than males to agree that only married people should have a sexual relationship. She deemed it as totally wrong to expect sex in love as litmus test. She agreed that if reliable contraceptives are available and can be used to prevent pregnancy than one can have sex before marriage.

B.com, Student of Hislop College, Varsha said that it is okay for boys and girls to get to know each other well. According to her, few guys did show some interest in her and she did enjoy it. She opined that one should never have pre-marital sex. She vehemently denied the concept of having sex just to prove love. She stick to her stand that sex should be had after marriage only.

Young entrepreneur Rahul did not respond to the question on reaction to the opposite sex. No one showed any interest in him. According to him, pre-marital sex is not good and one should have sex only after marriage. He also believes that guy or gals should not expect their partners to have sex to prove his or her love for the other person.

Gym trainer, Rahul M said that though many girls showed interest in him, pre-marital sex is not an accepted concept in our Indian society.  And that one should enjoy sex only after marriage.

Electrical Engineering Student of Priyadarshini College Akshay said that one should have a healthy relationship with guys and gals cause it helps in getting to know the opposite sex as well. He also says pre-marital sex is good if their partners are okay with it. If guys are really honest and willing to respond honestly, it’s no problem in having premarital sex. He said every girl is different in thought and hence every girl has different set of mind towards premarital sex is concerned. He however believes that guy or gal can expect their partners to have sex to prove his or her love, if he or she is comfortable with that. He however agreed that if reliable contraceptives are available and it can be used to prevent pregnancy, one should have sex before marriage.

Mechanical Engineering Student of Jaidev College of Engineering Dhruv said that every boy or girl should have a healthy relationship. Many girls have shown interest in him. He also said that pre-marital sex is good if the partners are mutually agreeing to it. He agreed that girls are really more conservative than boys where premarital sex is concerned. He also said that females are more likely than males to agree that only married people should have a sexual relationship. He agreed that guys or gals can expect their partners to have sex to prove his or her love for the other person if he or she is comfortable with that. He however does notagree that if reliable contraceptives are available and it can be used to prevent pregnancy, one should have sex before marriage.

B.SC student Amrita said that few boys have showed interest in her. However she added that having premarital sex is totally fine. Females are not at all conservative if compared to boys when it comes to premarital sex. It’s okay to get involved physically with your partner to prove ones’ love, she opined. Though contradicting it she said that one shouldn’t have premarital sex.

Medical Student Shweta said that every boy or girl should have a healthy relationship with each other. Few boys have shown interest in her. She opined that she is against pre-marital sex. She said,  “I  don’treally believe that gals or boys expect their partners to have sex to prove his or her love for the other person.

Practicing dentist Shraddha said a  boy or a girl should have a healthy relationship. Many guys have shown interest in her. She  said that one should avoid pre-marital sex as long as possible. She agreed that girls are really more conservative than boys where premarital sex is concerned. She defended that even if reliable contraceptives are available and can be used to prevent pregnancy, one should not have sex before marriage.

Engineering student Jayshree Gaidhane said that boys or girls should not expect their partners to have sex to prove his or her love for the other person. She agreed that even if reliable contraceptives are taken one should not have sex before marriage.

RJ Akki  from Red FM 93.4 / Rohit said that its not bad to have a pre-marital sex if it’s safe and performed in a healthy manner. He viewed that one can prove their love by expressing it in words, action or deeds. He agreed that even if reliable contraceptives are available and can be used to prevent pregnancy, one should not have sex before marriage.

Engineering student Vineet Patil said that whenever he see any person of opposite sex he wants to go and interact with her. He added that many girls have shown interest in him. He clearly disagreed having premarital sex. He said that girls are more conservative than boys when it comes to premarital sex. One should not get involved in premarital sex, he said.

B.Com student Priyanka said, “Few boys have showed interest in her. She opined that have premarital sex is fine. She added that girls are not at all conservative in comparison with the boys when it comes to premarital sex. She said that no girl or boy should expect their partners to become physical to prove their love. She agreed that one shouldn’t have premarital sex, even if some type of contraceptives are taken.

:: Samuel Gunashekharan