Many people tend to see arguments in a negative light. They assume disputes can cause breakage and tear two people apart. However, research has shown that the opposite is the case. Seeing these arguments in a positive light can bring strength to a partnership. Couples who argue regularly understand what commitment means and how they can channel their energy into helping the other person to appreciate, love, and understand them.
Rather than condemn the idea, it is best to try to understand why couples who argue can maintain a healthy and close relationship.
1. It means the line of communication is open
Arguments can be the best way to deal with issues and opens emotions, rather than just hiding how you feel and having these issues develop into resentment. According to a study conducted in India, many couples agreed that arguments can be healthy and keep the line of communication open. Arguments can bring a constructive perspective to a situation and make a couple deal with it openly.
2. It means you are concerned about the other person
Arguments can make us emotionally charged and show just how much we care. If you are really comfortable and concerned about the other person, airing your opinions won’t destroy your relationship. Rather, it may bring new strength to your relationship. When an argument is healthy, you can feel how concerned the other person is about you.
3. It means your relationship is alive
No one likes a boring atmosphere where there is no intensity and controversy. Some drama can keep a relationship alive and active. This kind of drama exposes you to each other’s energy and fire. Such arguments also keep you awake and alert to the other person’s discomforts, needs, and characteristics — something you learn to deal with and adjust to in time.
4. It means you will learn from each other
No one should shy away from learning and trying to discover a new thread of thought or perspective on life. When you argue, you will learn from each other and see yourselves from another person’s point of view. You can truly see the other person and their knowledge in the form of a hot debate, one that you might learn a little from.
5. It means you are real to each other
You are not pretending when you argue, since disputes are expressive. You can be authentic and allow the other person accept you for who you are — your energy, opinions, and temper. The other person can see you at your worst and find a way to appreciate you anyway.
6. It means you can deal with issues
Arguments show a level of maturity in a relationship and how well you are able to deal with negativity. Rather than run away from issues, you are willing to take on difficulties and survive them together as a couple. Arguments bring you closer in terms of allowing for each other’s negative energy and sticking with your partner regardless. There is power in every argument and that power is represented in how you survive each one.
7. It means you stand for something
You and your partner both have values and opinions that are solid. Arguments make you defend these values and represent what you stand for. Although some may see this in a negative light, it is actually a positive thing. Having solid opinions and beliefs means that you both have something substantive you are bringing to the table. Sometimes, accepting a compromise or making a sacrifice will show how much you care about the other person and how much you are offering to make the relationship work.